Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man, Expanded Edition: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, And Commitment (2000) - Plot & Excerpts
Similar to other reviewers, I deducted one star for this book because Steven Harvey only expressed concerns about how women should behave according to the men's mind. It would be better if both sexes can learn how one another's perspective to maintain a healthy relationship together. There are a few tips that I found useful from his analysis:1) Men show their love by professing, providing and protecting. Profess means when he introduces others that you are his exclusive lover to show that he is committed. 2) Men like to fix the problems in the conversation rather than going on about it for hours like how women do. 3) Men approach you for a plan, most likely that he wants to sleep with you.4) There are ways to decipher if the guy wants to commit or only wants one-night date.For instance, a woman who command respects, have expectations, clear in communication, get to introduced to friends, generally happy with her life is the keeper.5) Five questions to ask a man before committing is what is his short-term, long-term goals, views on relationship, how do they think about us and how they feel about us. For the last one, if he thinks about us without seeing us that means he looks forward for a long-term relationship.6) Don't sleep with a guy before ninety days come to earn his respect. If you say no when he asks for sex and he gives up, let him go. Look for guys that can extend himself to offer us benefits.7) Don't be too independent that show that you don't need him. Let the man do his job. This book you need to read it and study it in the same time, you need to focus and concentrate for each word to enjoy it and the most important to take the advantage from it. I LOVED IT! And am so thankful to Steve Harvey for writing it.In the first pages he said " I’m going to tell you the secrets the real deal about men, the things we wish you knew about us but that we really don't want you to know lest we lose the game” I was like seriously ? okay let’s see this will be interesting and yes it was. I loved reading this book and enjoyed every page, it have a lot of sociological aspect and issues that interest me, it’s obvious he have a good experience and enough knowledge showing in his realistic analysis in many topics. I think he took a lot of time writing this book how it could be so perfect... Am still surprised I was thinking while I was reading about the review I will write.. I wanted to criticise the author for not covering everything related to the subject he is talking about... Then after reading the last chapter I simply had no more complains he talked about everything in details perfectly. I guess all women need to read this book. GREAT ONEWhat I liked: -First I believe in the three Ps of love.. Profess, provide, protect I liked and loved the chapter that explained them... I was just like oh my god so true.. That's right... But still am not sure if they are enough for men and I will say later why. - The only way a women can truly be completely satisfied is to get her self four different men... When I read this I was like what the hell this book will be a disaster what is he saying and then when he explained his point i laughed a lot this is just SO TRUE!!! It’s one of the most realistic things I’ve ever read.. I can't imagine how does he think this way it’s like he knows all about it he was able to play a rule of a woman and yes all women need these four men.. Well said. - Flowers, jewelry, phone calls, dates, sweet talk.. These are all the weapons in our hunting arsenal when we're coming for you. Haha this made me laugh too.. And this point he discussed it with the sports fish vs. keepers... To be honest the way he created this and the way he thought about it persuaded me.. he summarized a big issue in a really simple way.. I clap my hand for Steve best chapter. - Why men cheat chapter.. Of course you can tell from the name of it that it will be a very interesting one, and important to discuss.. Loved it Specially the way he ended it and the advices where fair enough and the example... Left a smile on my face wondering how people could really change because of pain.- He picked some examples to talk about from the real life “reality" which was perfect to explain what he meant.. The massage from the example was so clear like in chapter thirteen the pineapple one it hurts but yes now I know why it’s really important to be the man the one who provides and why there is a difference between men and women in work and marriage as that its obvious after reading this chapter ... Men shouldn't get involved with women who gets better salaries but of course not all there is some special cases I guess.-If he's not coming up with some solutions to help you feel better, then he needs to be fired. He has no rights to the benefits. From the ninety day rule advices hahha this made me laugh and think that seriously this is the best book for relationships.What I didn’t like and the reason for the four starts not five:Mama's boy chapter I disliked.. Specially page 92 the way he described the women who sent to him about the mama’s boy I don’t think she deserves this bad description it annoyed me.. But anyway what he said was true in this chapter to convince me I swear this man is so SMART in many situations he described but in this chapter his explanation and advices weren't enough to solve these kinds of problems in a relationship and am sure of that because I’ve seen examples to people in the same situation and it didn’t help.. He didn’t understand what a woman really feels and he can’t always get it right because still he is a man. Some chapters weren't interesting at all for me maybe because of my age like chapter 12 the kids problem with your man and stuff but anyway I read it all just to see his thoughts about it.. In many topic i disagreed with him in the first but after reading the whole chapter I got what he mean and he made me change my mind.. I like not with all of them but the most.Four stars not five why ? because I disagreed with him with some subjects and I need to be honest they are just a few ones and that is because I live in a different culture and I have a different religion.. My standers and the way we see life in some cases is related to the way we obey our lord and the way we follow our Islam concept and sunnah. Another reason is because I didn’t like in some really complicated discussions that he was so sure about what he is saying, I mean it would make more sense to me if he said something like: “ but from man to man it differs from one to another” but he didn’t cause he think they are all think and act exact the same but this is not true. (My opinion)And that’s it.. in the end again I say all women need to read this book and even me I think I will again, I really loved it its one of my favorites now.Quotes: -Men needs to feel like kings even if they don't act kingly.-Once a man stepped out on his wife, he's putting something else before god and family. -Because it's all about getting the " who i am " and the " what i do " lined up.
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