Walaupun tajuk buku ini terlalu 'cheesy', saya bagi 5 bintang! Saya selalu menyenangi tulisan-tulisan ustaz hasrizal. Inti pati tulisannya sangat relevan. Memang saya terlambat sedikit membaca buku 'aku terima nikahnya' ini. Namun intinya masih begitu relevan dalam masyarakat kita sekarang. Persoalan antara adat dan agama masih menjadi 'penyakit' di malaysia. Sebab itu, saya suka bila ustaz menekankan bahawa kita adalah generasi jambatan, iaitu generasi yang tersepit antara zaman adat dan syariat. Yang nyata, untuk menguraikan kekeliruan itu memerlukan satu usaha yg teliti dan tidak gelojoh. Terima kasih ustaz atas tulisan yang sangat bernas untuk kita, generasi jambatan ini menikmatiIslam yg ringkas dan indah dalam syariat Allah. Dan apabila ustaz bercerita tentang kasih sayang ibu bapa yang tiada penghujungnya, jujur saya katakan saya rasa terpukul. Memang benar ibu ayah amat mudah memaafkan anak-anak. Tidak kira seberat mana pun kesalahan itu, akhirnya restu mereka sentiasa ada. Kasih sayang mereka sememangnya TANPA SYARAT. Terima kasih ustaz membuatkan saya ingin lebih menghargai ayah dan arwah ibu. Sememangnya, Ustaz terlalu kaya dengan pengalaman yang cukup realistik tentang kehidupan. Terima kasih sekali lagi sebab meminjamkan sedikit ilmu dan pengalaman utaz kepada saya. A must read for Muslims bride & groom to be, and for those who are already married as well. In other words, everyone!The book basically tells of the writer's journey towards marriage, their life after marriage, and their adventures as parents of 3 children. They were both studying/working abroad from Malaysia, and the sacrifices they had to make to create a family, to raise their children were well captured here.The first part tells of life pre-marital. How they limited their meetings, contacts before marriage, the pillar of marriage as the writer stresses, "life is of giving, not taking. Always remember to give love, to give nafkah etc, and you'll be happy when you are able to fulfill that."Another phrase I like from the book is, "don't concentrate on finding the perfect spouse - when you marry that perfect someone and live together, expecting perfection only, you'll end up seeing only their imperfections." The second half of the books tells of raising children.The book also captures points of raising children abroad that I believe many Malaysian Muslims who lived abroad would understand. I studied abroad for 4 years, and I did see a difference between us raising children locally, and abroad. There, children were treated as normal human, their ideas and comments are not ignored, their questions are answered patiently, sometimes scientifically, to encourage their thinking process. Here, we tend to get impatient with their questions, sometimes even forbidding them from asking 'nonsense' questions. Another part the book stresses is that parents must spend quality time with their children. For children, their parents are heroes, and they expect the parents to be their heroes, but when parents are always tired from work, scold them often, never pay attention to their wants or input, they tend to find their 'hero' somewhere else - sometimes leading them to drugs etc. Every child gone wrong, is the result of the parents' incompetence.One thing I like about this book is its concise content. The chapters were short, and everything is explained simply, yet you get the message. Plus, I like the part that each chapter's title, is a summary of the chapter. That way, even if you forget about the content of the chapter, just reading the book index may get you to recall the chapter's content. Some motivational books are not written that way, the chapter's title is like a 'clue' to the content and you need to read the whole chapter again to recall.I would recommend this book to everyone I know. Just as I recommend "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus".
What do You think about Aku Terima Nikahnya (2008)?
Menarik untuk dibaca si bujang mahupun ibubapa bagi memandu perkahwinan
—agungbudhi
Good writing, effective approach on altering youth mentality
—loelly
berkat adalah penting dalam perkahwinan.
—Farmyfarm
