She said if you didn 't go in the sun parlor it would be possible to live in this house through several generations and never change your attitude. She said you had to be careful living in New Orleans, in this climate, not to let moss grow on you; though it wasn 't just the humidity that might do you in. She said she had no idea what her mother thought about; maybe she 'd ask her sometime, approach her as a corporal work of mercy. She said for some reason she was beginning to understand her father more and see him for the first time as a man and not simply as her dad. They stood in the main hall, in the doorway of the dark formal living room. I began to realize I don't know much at all about men. I've never imagined being one. I've never imagined being a girl, Jack said. He paused a moment and said, No, I don 't think it 's possible. You don't seem aware of yourself. Well, I catch myself posing every once in a while. You're aware of it when you're not being yourself. I'm not sure what we're talking about.