Do be yourself. You may feel as if you’re under a lot of pressure to make a good impression, and that can sometimes cause people to say and do strange things. The key to making a good impression with this crowd is simple – be authentic. Be yourself. Nothing raises a red flag in someone’s mind faster than the feeling that the person they are talking to isn’t being entirely honest about who or what they are. Exaggerating or misrepresenting your experience, orientation, or lifestyle is one of the quickest ways to become a pariah in the fetish community. You should never attempt to bluff your way through anything related to this lifestyle, not even the simplest conversations. At best, you’ll embarrass yourself. Worse, someone could end up getting seriously hurt, and that someone could be you. Contrary to popular belief, most people in the BDSM community love to welcome and mentor people who are new to it and eager to learn. Do try to smile and be a good conversationalist. Your smile is always your best asset when it comes to making good first impressions! Don’t be afraid to start a conversation with those you meet, and try to uphold your end of any discussion that occurs. Giving monosyllabic answers to questions can be a quick way to put a damper on just about any exchange, so try to avoid giving curt yes or no responses. Even better, try to work a question of your own into your responses. For example, when someone asks, “Have you been in the lifestyle long?”
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