1 Samuel 20:18 The following interview took place in 2010 and was redacted in the fall of 2013. I’m a gay man who happens to have had a handful of relationships—“serious” ones—with women. The last of these partnerships was unique in that it was the only union to produce a child and a marriage certificate, though not in that order. I’ve never spoken of the events that caused us to separate (we never bothered to divorce) and for whatever reason, this moment in time seems to have presented itself as ripe for the telling. Bruce, I’m not interested in knowing why you stepped into my life. I should say, my tub! You know—the wherefores of the universe conspiring to provoke this “confession.” I only know what I know. And what I don’t know, I have learned to leave alone. I’ve lived in the Bay Area for what, 30 years? My wife and I met on a six-week silent retreat at Spirit Rock, that’s up in Marin. We were Buddhists then.
