This approach of marriage has worked for ages on end, and only today do we such such a demise in society's moral standards all because we seem to think that women and men are the same. This is wrong because men and women have different needs. And this book helps you achieve the needs that women have.Today many women ask where have all the real men gone? I tell them where have all the women gone? This lack of understanding between the sexes is a feminist creation to distort the being of society and books such as the Surrendered Wife seek to restore it.The many negative reviews of the book seem to think that is book seeks to create woman doormats nothing could be wrong from the truth in fact it gives women more power. More power over your husband because although he might take care of the finances and societal obligations the woman overall will have final say. Because if a woman pleases her husband then her husband will treat her as a queen and she shall have it all, because after all as Doyle notes men want to make their wives happy no matter what.This book is great for broken marriages and relationships she talks on how to give up control and seek that your husband finds his inner man in this world of emasculated men who feel useless. Very good book every woman should read this and give to their daughters to read as well.Another reason why many reviewers don't like this book is because it says that your husband should support you (meaning the woman stays home) or if she does not then the man must take care of the finances. Women today have such distrust they believe it is controlling and wrong and sexist for the man to bring in the bacon yet these same women always complain why their men don't share equal responsibility doing household chores, well men are not wired that way no matter what men will not do as much work home as a woman no matter how much feminist cry about it. So feminists love the double shift, which in fact has created greater inequality between the sexes. In fact if women have such distrust of men why marry them?Feminists seek to destroy masculine values (such as providing for the family) because besides that men are useless for them. Therefore a man that takes care of his own wife financially is in fact a real man willing to sacrifice for the family. This sacrifice men are no longer willing to make because now women have allowed them to become lazy therefore women are very unhappy yet they don't know where that unhappiness comes from and falsely believe that only if the man did more work around the house things would be better.
Like Laura Schlessinger's "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" (don't read it - it's not worth your time or money), this is a book of how to stop trying to control your husband and act like you were his mother, and how to start treating him with the respect and love that he deserves. However, unlike that book, Laura Doyle actually cares for her sex, and the book describes how to get an intimate marriage, without loosing yourself in the process. While there naturally were areas where I disagreed with Laura Doyle, I generally thought her advice very sound, and will do my best to put some of her theories into practise.A comment on the translation: I read the book in Danish, and unfortunately it was the worst translation I've yet to see. Bad (stilted) language, spelling mistakes and grammar mistakes all over the place, as well as misplaced spaces, line breaks and missing words. Obviously that's not Laura Doyle's fault, but I was amazed at how a book could be published with that many mistakes.
Well, the truth is that I can imagine a reader hating it and/or loving it. I first read this book over a year ago and put it down at pg 83. It seemed very stepford to me and I found that I would get a nose bleed taking the high road suggested by the author. However, in recent times, I thought it would be fruitful for me to try and pick it up again..I am so glad that I did. A second set of eyes I still my own)made all the difference... I still feel that giving up the bill control/finances is something I could never do, I respect the idea. I think that understanding that men thinking differently and not disrespecting them is huge...and I think that even if we as wives are not control freaks, we still want to control our own lives..and this where accidentally (or not) controlling them comes in...I took a lot of this in..a favorite aspect of the book are the fantastic and brilliant quotes...I liked it
—Marissa
I loved this book. I read it several years ago, a few times. It definitely changed the dynamics of our marriage. Believe it or not, but my husband is the one who recommended it to me. Dangerous ground....I know there have been times he has second guessed his actions. Sometimes in the past I have used the term...."I am surrendering this to you now".... on more issues than he would probably have liked. We have a good balance now. This book helped me learn how to relinquish, or at least relax the tight control I felt I had to have on EVERYTHING. It allowed me to relax my grip and enjoy our marriage more by letting go, and letting my husband lead out and be the man of our home.
—Melissa
This book is absolute crap. I don't say that about many books, but this one completely deserves it.Mrs. Doyle promises a happier marriage, mutual respect, and greater passion if you follow the lessons and suggestions within. These include handing the checkbook to your husband and having him make all the financial decisions - you just tell him what you need for your "allowance" every week. You never, ever criticize him or tell him he's wrong - so if you're driving from one end of the country to the other and he makes a wrong turn, you don't tell him. He'll figure it out on his own.Really? How is this helpful to either of you?A D/s relationship makes SO much more sense than this drivel. At least in D/s, both partners strengths and weaknesses are taken into consideration, and the level of control/submission is agreed upon. Doyle advocates what D/s-ers would call topping from the bottom, or manipulating your partner to do what you want him to. There are some couples this book has worked for, and that's fine. Maybe it will work for some. In my opinion, however, I think its pure crap.
—Amber
