For the Truth is that we are kind for the same reason as we are cruel, in order that we may enhance the sense of our own Power. —Aldous Huxley (1894–1963) Humans have dark and disturbing facets in their sexual psychology that we cannot ignore. An astonishingly large number of women sometimes have sex because men deceive them, drug them, verbally coerce them, or physically force them. In some ways, these may seem like odd topics to cover in a book about why women have sex. Indeed, some of our friends and colleagues wondered why we would discuss topics such as forced sex in this book at all, since many do not consider rape to be about sex but rather about power and violence. We are sensitive to these concerns and deliberated much over them. In the end, though, we decided to defer to the voices of the women in our study. The fact is that many women, when asked what motivated them to have sex, did respond by saying they were deceived by a man, verbally coerced, plied with drugs or alcohol, or physically forced.
