If I Have To Tell You One More Time. . .: The Revolutionary Program That Gets Your Kids To Listen Without Nagging, Reminding, Or Yelling (2011) - Plot & Excerpts
I've been reading a lot of parenting books lately, and this is definitely in my top three right now. We've been trying the techniques out for about a month and a half, and I've noticed a MARKED difference in our household--most significantly, that I am NO LONGER YELLING. No longer crying after my kids are asleep about how awful I got by the end of the day. There is just less tension and more cooperation.Other wonderful outcomes? Our three year old, who would melt down over everything from dropping a noodle on the floor to having to go to bed, is quickly becoming better at reining himself in and speaking calmly. I discovered how MUCH my kids want time with me, and that ten minutes a day of one-on-one is like gold to them. Their faces light up. And I get to learn more about them.It was, however, PAINFUL TO INTRODUCE THESE CHANGES. You really have to be consistent and stick with it. And there are a few things that we've adjusted to meet our personal parenting philosophies. But all in all these tools are really invaluable. I'll reread this one for sure. How many times have you wished you had a different solution when your kids act up than threatening with a time out or losing your cool and demanding they just do what you say? Situations that pit child against parent may come up multiple times a day, particularly when you have preschoolers testing limits to see how much they can get away with or teens seeking to assert their independence.Amy McCready, founder of Positive Parenting Solutions, Inc., knows about the day-to-day power struggles that go on in families and she’s got advice that can help the next time you’re faced with a child who refuses to brush her teeth, get off the computer and come to dinner, or put his clothes in a hamper for washing. McCready’s book, If I Have to Tell You One More Time… lays out many scenarios where power struggles may arise and gives suggestions for getting results without yelling, pleading, or overreacting with over-the-top punishments.The subhead for the book says a lot about what you can find inside: The Revolutionary Program That Gets Your Kids to Listen Without Nagging, Reminding, or Yelling. I would have loved to have this guide when my daughters were younger. Each issue of childhood misbehavior has a Toolbox Solution—there are 23 toolboxes in all—that explains the solution, when to use it, why it works and gives tips for success. The only thing I believe could have made the book more useful is a more descriptive table of contents that outlines the issues and toolboxes in each chapter. That would make it easier to refer back to when needed. Even so, If I Have to Tell You One More Time… is a valuable tool to have on your parenting advice bookshelf.The publisher provided me with a copy of this book for review in exchange for my honest review.
What do You think about If I Have To Tell You One More Time. . .: The Revolutionary Program That Gets Your Kids To Listen Without Nagging, Reminding, Or Yelling (2011)?
One of my favourite parenting books, if not my favourite parenting book, to date.
—susan
stopped reading about 1/3rd of the way into it, just not feeling the tips.
—clee0625
This confirmed my parenting advice-don't read parenting books. Or blogs.
—keejillian
Life changing book. Highly recommend it
—rileystar
