This may also entail severing any financial ties that keep you in a dependent rela- tionship with your parents and from gaining the confidence of knowing you can take care of yourself.Those who have parents who continue to be overly controlling or smoth- ering will need to let your parents know, in a nonblaming way, if possible, that you are no longer comfortable with the old pattern of relating. Once you have done this you will need to maintain your position and your boundaries despite any threats or manipulation from your parents.Those who have parents who continue to be abusive, either emotionally, physically, or sexually, may need to confront your parents about their unacceptable behavior or temporarily separate from your parents to gain enough strength to confront them.Finally, those of you who have been estranged from your parents may need to gradually reestablish the relationship on your own terms.Let Go of BlameAfter you have released your anger about what was done or left undone to you as a child, you will need to begin to move beyond your blame and resentment.
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