The time to have pulled back was actually the moment just before this one—that’s usually the point when men will tell you they’re going to come, if he’s a communicative sort of fellow (and I would definitely encourage him to vocalize). Once his gun has loaded (so to speak), help him focus on firing it for all it’s worth. Very often men will end up pulling back from the cusp of ejaculatory inevitability, with the venerable intention of wanting to last longer. While I wholeheartedly support slowing down and building to a point of ultimate tension and arousal, I have heard from many of my male patients that such attempts at slowing down fail at this critical juncture and the ultimate quality that their orgasm suffers. Or sometimes they succeed, actually emitting a small amount of ejaculate, or they lose some of the blood and tumescence from their erection. They may even experience one or two orgasmic contractions without ejaculating. Men who practice male multiple orgasms are familiar with this technique and some claim it’s like taking two steps backward to achieve one giant jump forward.
